Is it common to feel as if your not getting any where planning a wedding?

My fiance and I are getting married Oct 18th this year... and I have the constant nagging feeling that we are not on the right track with planning and getting things ready... I think we have the main things done... the ceremony and reception site booked, the pastor,florist,


photographer,dress,tuxes,


dresses for girls. any advice?? what did you forget on your big day?? thank you!!

Is it common to feel as if your not getting any where planning a wedding?
why dont you buy a wedding planning book, my mum bought me one from clinton cards, and it has been a fantastic help to me. it tells you all the things you need to think about!!! you could also look online at confetti.com to find one or youandyourwedding.com these are great helpful websites. good luck.
Reply:well, let me start off by saying CONGRATULATIONS... second, my advice would be to but one of those 'wedding planing books' they are very helpful, my fiance (we're getting married on Aug 08, 2008) and i bought one of those and man are they handy, we got ours at Barnes and Nobles, i don't remember how much it was, but to tell you the truth i think it was worth it, (i think it was like $30 or so, so it wasn't too bad, specially for the insight that's been able to provide) and many of them have an offer that instead of paying $99 you pay like $14 and you can create your own wedding website (it's got different 'themes' and different little things that you can do) the company (i believe) it's called "WEDDING SOLUTIONS". My fiance and i found it to be very helpful, and sounds like you already have alot of things down, but having one of those organizers or planner doesn't hurt. well good luck.
Reply:Look for the magazine/guide "Real Simple Weddings". I found it to be a far better guide to planning and organizing the wedding and details than many of the bridal magazines. It costs $12-13, but worth the expense, IMO.
Reply:Use a check off list...like


12 MONTHS OR MORE BEFORE THE WEDDING





Announce your intention to marry to BOTH sets of parents. Arrange to have them meet if they haven't already.


Determine type (formal, semi-formal, informal), style and theme of the wedding.


Make a list of what is important to you for your wedding; this will help you determine your budget.


Sit down with your fiance and ALL parents and discuss the wedding budget, and who will pay for what.


Get or make a wedding organizer (a 3 ring binder with pockets works great). Use it to store all your information, contracts, ideas, photos, etc.


Speak with your clergy/officiant and review synagogue/church requirements.


Come up with 2 or 3 possible wedding dates and start looking for ceremony and reception venues. If a venue you like is available on one of your chosen dates, book it immediately; many venues will often be booked up to 2 years in advance, so have several choices in mind beforehand in case they are already booked.


If you are using one, start looking for and book a wedding consultant.





9 TO 11 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING





Start looking for and interviewing all the remaining vendors:


Photographer


Videographer


Caterer (if needed)


Officiant (if needed)


Florist


If any vendor you like is available on your date and is within your budget, book them IMMEDIATELY! Like reception and ceremony venues, many of these vendors can be booked up to a year in advance.


Together with your parents, begin compiling your preliminary guest list. You can always narrow down this list to fit within your size requirements and budget limitations at a late date.


Start getting ideas by looking through bridal magazines, going to Bridal Fairs and doing research on the internet.


Finalize your wedding colors, theme and style.


Select your attendants (bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, flower girl and ring bear) and ask them to honor you by being in your wedding. Make sure they are aware of what their "duties" are.


Choose and purchase your wedding rings.


Begin looking at honeymoon options. Discuss where you both would like to go, and if needed visit a travel agent.


Start looking for a wedding gown, veil, accessories and your attendants attire.





6 TO 8 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING





Start planning ceremony and reception music choices.


If you haven't already finalize and purchase your wedding gown, veil, and accessories.


If you are having a prenuptial agreement, take care of that now.


Finalize attire for attendants.


Start pre-marriage counceling (if required)


Start looking at invitations.


Sign up for your gift registry


Send save-the-date cards/newsletter





4 TO 5 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING





Work with your florist and finalize your arrangements.


Place wedding announcement in local newspaper


Order wedding stationary (invitations, envelopes, programs, etc.)


Start shopping for bridal party tuxedos


Book limo/transportation


Start planning the wedding decorations


Arrange accommadations for out of town guests (book blocks of hotel rooms)


Select wedding cake (and Groom's cake if you are having one)


Start making arrangement for rehearsal and rehearsal dinner


Book calligrapher


Decide on wedding favors


If you decided not to use a Wedding Coordinator, consider asking a close friend not in the wedding party to be your Wedding Coordinator/Personal Assistant.





3 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING





Order your wedding cake and groom's cake


Meet with your officiant to discuss details of the ceremony


Finalize the guest list


Reconfirm the rehearsal dinner plans


Buy the cake knife, guest book, toasting glasses and garter


Choose gifts for your attendants, parents, helpers.


Have the male members of the wedding party, including fathers, fitted for tuxedos.


Reconfirm honeymoon arrangements.


Start writing your wedding vows, if you are doing them yourself.


Start addressing the invitations (or drop them off with calligrapher)





2 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING





Send out invitations


Schedule a hair and make up consultation to do a trial run.


Start making/buying wedding favors


Obtain wedding license


Schedule your first wedding dress fitting.


Write thank you notes for any gifts that may start arriving.


If you are having one, begin putting together your ceremony program.


Meet with vendors (caterer, florists, etc.) to finalize arrangements.


If you are changing your name, complete the proper documents.


Finalize music selections for the ceremony and reception and turn them in to the DJ/Band/etc.


Have formal wedding portrait taken.


Finalize music selections for the ceremony and reception and turn them in to the DJ/Band/etc.


Meet with your officiant to finalize ceremony details.


Reserve room for wedding night.





1 MONTH BEFORE THE WEDDING





Confirm honeymoon your reservations.


Meet with photographer and/or videographer to discuss last minute details.


Start working on the reception seating chart.


Have final wedding gown fitting.


Arrange for a reception babysitter, if needed.


Finish (and print) the wedding program.


Finalize wedding vows


Confirm all final payment amounts with your vendors as well as date, time, etc.


Pick up marriage license.





2 WEEKS BEFORE THE WEDDING





Finalize reception seating chart.


Confirm delivery time and locations with florist.


Contact any guests who did not respond to the invitation.





1 WEEK BEFORE THE WEDDING





Pick up wedding gown, attendants' gowns and all accessories.


Give final guest count to reception venue/caterer.


Reconfirm everything with vendors one last time.


Make sure men get their final fitting for their tuxedos.





1 DAY BEFORE THE WEDDING





Attend rehearsal.


Attend rehearsal dinner. Give attendants their gifts.


Have a manicure and/or a pedicure.


Put together the tip envelopes (for the vendors) and give them to the designated "tip person" (generally the best man).


Confirm wedding day transportation.


Reconfirm hair and make up appointments.


If you have access to the ceremony and/or reception venues, bring everything over there that you may need (decorations, guest book, etc).


Layout everything you need for the next day in a safe place (marriage license, dress, shoes, etc.).


Speak with everyone in the wedding party and make sure everyone knows where to be at what time.


Try to go to bed early and get some sleep.





YOUR WEDDING DAY





Eat breakfast, even if you think you aren't hungry.


Share a private moment with your fiance.


Have your hair and makeup done.


Give the best man the groom's ring.


Begin dressing two hours before ceremony is scheduled to begin.


Spend a quiet moment looking at yourself in the mirror before you walk down the aisle.