Wedding stress! Help!!?

Our wedding is in 4 months I still have a ton of stuff to do. No florist, photog,Dj or limos booked yet. We are also in the process of buying a house so Im handling the wedding and him the house stuff. Everytime I mention Im stressed my fiance he goes off on how he has far more stress than I do with the house and the wedding is more triveal and really isn't sympathetic when Im just venting my frustarations. Ive yet to tell him about alot of other things going on with me ( Like work issues and medical stuff) so as not to put more burden him cuz I know he's overwhelmed too. When I get quiet he gets pissed at me when I start to tell him stuff and about how I feel I immediatly get teary and a lump in my throat so I stop my self and keep it in. Now I even started smoking again.I don't know how we can reconnect and be supports for each other. Any ideas. Im at the end of my rope

Wedding stress! Help!!?
When we "vent" to our men, they often think we are asking them to fix the problem. When they don't know what to do to help us, they may get frustrated and unfortunately take it out on the person they want to help! If you need to let him know how you feel, make sure he understands first that you are not coming to him with a problem that you expect him to fix. Let him know that you just need a couple minutes of his time so you can let off some steam. Mention that he is your best friend (I hope he is), and that you would appreciate it if he would listen. Try to have a short, calm conversation with him, leaving tears out of it, if you can. Let him know that you understand he is under a great deal of stress as well, and that you are not trying to overshadow this. And make sure you keep it short! Don't overwhelm him with a half-hour conversation, just blow off some steam and then give him a chance to do the same.





Don't be surprised if he does not vent to you, guys often feel that they need to handle their stresses on their own - just let him know that you are there if he needs to talk.





As for your medical issues, this is not something you should keep from him! Anything that affects your health is going to affect him to some degree as well, and it is not fair to keep that from him.





You could always try a trick I thought up for my fiance' and I. Whenever one of us is feeling overwhelmed (for us it's finances, wedding details, house-buying problems, issues w/ the ex-wife and his kids, etc.), we can ask to take out our "boyfriend" or "girlfriend". We go out for the evening and the deal is that we don't mention any of the stressful stuff. We talk about the things that attracted us in the first place, and what made us fall in love. We always leave feeling reconnected.
Reply:I suggest visiting wedding directory such as http://www.weddinglenox.com





Unlike most yellow pages, they have price comparison for the vendors (DJ,videographer, florist, and photographer) you can choose.





You can also try their matching system http://www.weddinglenox.com/f-membersign... that will match you up with local vendors. I tried it and have good result as I only recieved responses from vendors according to my request.





One problem I had with my wedding is that it is hard to locate vendors in most website as most likely they group by states and there are too many of them that's too far from me and I have to look at each site to figure out.





The sites I provide above have a easy to use layout to show you pictures, pricing and location in one page plus, you can send out your inquiry for matching vendor to contact you. That save me lots of time to locate the best vendors with the right price.
Reply:Breath and remember everything you are doing now will be over soon.....


Find time for each other that doesn't involve the house or the wedding....Remember No Matter what....the two of you came first....





Take a weekend off...go someone where together....dinner and a movie....Get take out, rent a movie and cuddle...





The stress will be over soon......Breath......and Breath some more....





Best wishes
Reply:Elope, rent a house, get a new job.
Reply:ASK SOMEONE FOR SOME HELP LIKE YOU R MOM THEY LIKE DOING THAT KIND OF STUFF.
Reply:If you go to http://www.wedding-savings-for-bride-gro... and you can fill out a form for each vendor you need and you will be contacted by up to four vendors. You can then pick the ones that meet your needs. There is no cost or obligation to use any of these vendors.
Reply:Planning a wedding, buying a house, whoa!! These could quite possibly be the 2 most stressful things on a relationship. I really think everyone stresses, fights, wants to ring there spouse's neck, when buying a house, it really is one of the hardest things to go through. You need to tell your other half how you are feeling and if he gets pissed off oh well you are about to get married, lay all your cards on the table, Tell him you know he is stressed but you need a little sympathy too.You guys are partners and you will get through if you can learn to communicate. Men tend to think they always have it harder than we do and they don't know how to handle our emotions. It takes time to merge into one but key is to not sweat the small stuff and don't take things real personal in these circumstances, once the house is bought and the wedding is over you will feel like you are flying free just be patient you will get through.


Try to recruit some outside help like family and friends to help find florist, DJ's, ect. maybe they can round them down to a couple and then you wont have such a hard decision. Also ask friends if they know any good ones(florist, DJ etc.).


Reach out for help, that's what family and friends are for.


Remember to communicate, don't sweat the small stuff, and remember we all go through this, you will be OK. good luck
Reply:Wedding is the event of the lifetime. It is very significant, and yes it can be very overwhelming. Even though you two are working on separate tasks, it is important to outline what the common expectations are, what the budget will be, etc.





There are tons of information online about wedding planning. But most of them seemed scattered. I haven't tried the product before, but here are comprehensive guide and software that might solve your problem once and for all.





http://www.my-linker.com/hop/weddingplan...





Remember, communicate, communicate, communicate. And when he starts to get impatient and yell at you. Pause and ask him to repeat what you have said. This method works like magic.





Ted
Reply:Hi. I think you need to calm down. You got 4 months to do it in. At least it is not days or hours. Wedding stress affects everyone and it will all work out in time. Just remember it always could be worse even though you think it can't. You should tell him that we need to sit down and talk and be honest about your work issues and medical stuff. Just talk yourself into telling him. You will feel better and maybe you can quit smoking again. I am sure he is stressed out and don't know what to do about it all either. That is why I think you need to sit down and talk and just tell him the stuff and tell him to just listen first. Then hear what he got to say. Just try to think positive and do what you can when you can. Don't try to do it all at once. Good Luck to you and Congrats on your wedding!
Reply:That's true - when there are a LOT of things to do, many people face the same problem like you - stress, anxiety, irritation, misunderstanding (in truth, everything comes from stress).


The main idea to understand is - this is YOUR DAY, the day you will join your hearts and souls, the day that will stay yours forever. Don't let all these material things to destroy your mood, your happiness, your feelings. Don't get them inside.


Believe me absolutely EVERYONE fells very tensed before the marriage day - it is all natural you start a family, and take responsibilities on yourself - can you imagine what can happen AFTER marriage? Responsible will be everywhere around you and your husband! And then children - and even more tension!


The only escape is to understand and take the fact of that. Be more calm about the material things. Yes take your time to arrange your medical issues - that's important.


Keep in your mind that nothing can be given without a "fight" - fight in a good sense, working, taking that.


So if you are getting married, be more responsible for what you are doing, dont stress yourself, but let it just go - you will be able to handle absolutely everything and even more, just never panic over a situation. Everything can be solved!





My situation was even more complicated. I'm Russian, my husband is Indian. Our marriage took place in India first - there was the main ceremony. Can you imagine how tensed me and my parents were when we were in Russia and had to come there a week before a marrige day and arrange many things at that point of time. That was very stressfull, but we could handle everything and became a very happy couple.





So don't worry about anything!





I wish you everything the best from the bottom of my heart!!!





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Reply:try a wedding planner.


it will take alot of stress of you.


it may be expensive but in the long run it will be good.





or you can ask your family/friends to help out with thinks.





%26amp;%26amp; your fiance is kinda being a jerk.
Reply:Its all abt proper time management, make a to do list for each day and then in night make it for the next day on the basis of how much u could do with ur current list items.
Reply:A wedding planner can help but if you cannot afford one then there are websites that you can use to help out. I would suggest asking some friends to help you with the wedding plans. You are both about to take 2 huge steps in your lives a house and marriage. That can put nerves into anyone. Realize that you are both going through stresses right now and let him know that you understand what he is going through and listen to him then maybe you can share as well. Keep the conversations in a low toned voice and use the I feel stressed by this what do you think you would do? Not I feel stressed by this because of you not helping etc... This is the first of many tests that marriage will throw to you but I believe you can get through this. If you want to know what we did, we eloped then got married with the wedding. It relieved a lot of stess on me and him but I wouldn't recommend it to everyone. No one knows about that first wedding except the minister who married us in the wedding and we have a secret date just for us. I like that. Good luck and take some deep breaths

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