Good time for a 2nd wedding?

Alot of people say my husband and I need to have a second wedding, as our first one was a disaster. I was terrorized by the females in my family and the wedding planner THEY had hired for me, and nothing was as I wanted it - not even the dress I wore. The day before the wedding, family members had gone as far as to call the caterer, florist, etc and change details so I wouldn't know.





My husband and I have only been married for one year, and since then I've had a major falling out with my family and I'm finally away from them. Our close friends urge us to go ahead and have a second wedding whenever we want (I was severely pressured into only inviting friends and business workers of my family, and not my own friends). I'm afraid one so soon after the first wedding would be... selfish I guess is the way I'm putting it.





Money isn't a problem, I just don't want to overwhelm people with another wedding.


What's a good time to consider doing a second wedding in this case?

Good time for a 2nd wedding?
Hi iced, I know how you feel. Go ahead and plan a very quiet renewal of vows, second wedding, call it what you want. Make it the most romantic, unique, spiritually fulfilling day of your life. :) This time have it the way YOU want it. Just make sure that your husband is involved in all aspects of the planning so he doesn't feel left out. And one other thing.. DON'T INVITE anyone that you don't want at your second event. Have the honeymoon of your dreams.


Good luck to you. :)
Reply:Actually, I don't believe in second weddings cause I think you already said "yes" or "I do" ...and you're living up to your vow. You already made the promise and you're keeping it cause you are still together. Congratulations!~ Personally, I think that should be celebrated. Have you thought of planning an "Anniversary Party" that could be a formal "reception" type event to celebrate your first year together? Something to think about. Happy 1 Year Anniversary and Many More! (My husband and I will be married 17 years this Fall.)
Reply:I don't think I would call it a 2nd wedding - how about a fabulous New Year's Eve party or an anniversary bash or a renewal of vows? Usually the later two options are if you've been married for a while - 5,10, 20 years... that's why I suggested maybe another kind of party instead this year, then an anniversary/renewal of vows for your 5th or 10th anniversary. You could still have a lot of fun planning another kind of party, like New Year's, and it wouldn't seem as self-centered. If you call it a 2nd wedding, people are going to think you are trying to get more gifts or attention (I don't know why people say this about gifts, since it costs a lot more money per head to host a wedding than the gifts are worth - one could save the trouble and buy what you want instead, but that's what people say. I'm requesting "no gifts" or donations to charity only for my wedding).