What are the cons of postponing my wedding for 2-3 months?

We set our date for October 2008, but I think we need more time, so I am thinking of changing it to December or January of next year. We have deposits put down on everything (i.e. venue, caterer, videographer, dj, florist). My girls bought their dresses, but they are season round in style. We didn't do 'save the date' or invitations yet. I believe that the deposit money is still good even if we change the date, but I would need to check with all the vendors.

What are the cons of postponing my wedding for 2-3 months?
If you can transfer all your deposits and not lose any money go for it. You definately do not want anymore stress on your wedding than you have to. If you need more time, for whatever reason, take it.





Most vendors won't jip you out of money if you are still going to go with their services. Plus, changing it now gives the vendors plenty of time to rebook those dates with another couple so they aren't losing any business.
Reply:I don't see any cons, unless you were going to have your wedding at an outdoor venue. If that's not the case, I think it will be just fine for you to push it back a few months. If you go with the same vendors, I don't believe they should charge you an additional fees or make you lose the deposit. Very sensible of you, not trying to rush things and being so pragmatic about it. I wish you luck!
Reply:Personally I wouldn't plan on a wedding in Dec or Jan unless most of your guests live in town. Having your wedding at holiday time may put a strain on peoples finances. Are you simply stressing yourself out by putting to much emphasis on one day out of your entire life? Relax and possibly delegate some of the planning to your mom, his mom or someone else you feel that you can trust.
Reply:if you live in snow belt


weather conditions could


be unfavorable
Reply:If anyone has already bought plane tickets... they will be out all that money.
Reply:Unless you live in a warm climate, December or January can be a disaster. I remember one January when it snowed so much in NJ that no one could get to the church. They lucked out because the caterer couldn't get there either or they would have had to pay him for all the food and no guests. Airfares also go up December 15. They are reasonable in October. Why do you want to change the date? Do you feel you are making a mistake? If so, call off the wedding, it's cheaper than a divorce.
Reply:You can check with the vendors.They may not even have dates available in Dec. or Jan.and may not even agree to the date change.


But...........you know what.........it's gonna always seem like you need more time no matter what date you plan.I would calm down and relax,stick with your original date,and everything will fall into place for you.Everyone gets the wedding jitters and thinks nothing will go right but it will.I'm sure there are a lot of people who support you and will help in anyway they can including your fiance.


All the best my dear and have a lovely wedding.
Reply:Why do you need more time? Extended deadlines only delay the exciting chaos just before the big day!!!


If you have your deposits down and everything booked why do you need more time? If theres any emotional reason for this then you shouldnt get married.
Reply:If you could switch the date without have to pay extra money or lose your deposits then there are no cons of postponing. If you think you need more time to prepare, then you do. It would be better to wait a few months, than to be so stressed that you do not enjoy your wedding. Good luck