Tipping question for my wedding.?

I am getting married next month. I am spending thousands of dollars on a bunch of vendors (Catering Hall, Photographer, Videographer, DJ, Florist, etc). My Catering Hall is providing me with a Maitre'D and a Bridal Assistant for the whole day. An 18% gratuity is being automatically added to our bill for the catering hall but someone told me that that 18% only gets split between the waiters and bus boys and that I should give an EXTRA tip to the Maitre'D and Bridal Attendant (Keep in mind, the 18% gratuity on the final bill is already over $2000!) Do I have to tip them? If so how much? Also, do I have to tip the Photo, Video and DJ also?? Help!!

Tipping question for my wedding.?
Okay, what you need to do asap is find out the real answer on where the 18% goes; if it is not in the catering contract, ask the salesperson who has been working with you on it.





If the money is spread throughout all the staff, then do not tip them extra. If not, you might consider bringing cash with you for that purpose. I would, however, wait and see what their services are like. If they do a tremendous job, then tip them, if not, don't. Trust me, they are on an hourly rate or salary anyway. They are not doing this out of the goodness of their hearts!





You do not have to tip any of your other vendors at all!
Reply:Yes you should still tip the Maitre'D and bridal attendant. I would leave the bill as sufficient payment for photo, video and DJ. Don't do a percentage for the other two, just a flat sum I would say about $50/person.
Reply:I think the figured in tip is plenty for now, you should decide after the services have been rendered. As far as the DJ and such, a 15% tip would be nice and more if they are really good.


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Reply:At mine tips were included to maybe 18%, I think the bridal attendant was tipped $100 and Maitre'D may have been include as 2% of the wedding.





Ask the catering Hall what is standard.





Do not tip video and photo, you will still be haggling when in comes to albums, extra pictures, ...
Reply:the photo video and dj should only be tipped if they are part of a large company *this should be a minimal amount if so. my video and photo were one man gigs so they only got what i paid for my packages. my band was just the 8 of them so they split the amount i pd for them so no extra tip. a tip is extra. if you feel the maitre'd and b assistant deserve a little extra throw them 50bucks in an envelope.. anything more is unnecessary.. they are getting pd to be there anyway.
Reply:i think our country is tipping crazy. people get paid to do a job, why do they automatically think they deserve more? esp. if you are feeding them at the wedding. at the most, i would give 50 extra bucks towards the wait staff, anything else is generous on your part